ASHES TO AUTHORITY
A 6-Month Rite of Passage for Men Ready to Rebuild
Welcome to the Forge
Before You Rebuild — You Burn
Most men never make it past the collapse.
They cope. They decorate the wreckage.
This isn’t that.
This is sacred carpentry.
This is Ashes to Authority.
Who This Is For
You’re tired of pretending you’re fine.
You’re tired of spiraling into reactivity and calling it passion.
You want to lead your life, not just survive it.
If you’re ready to stop circling the same emotional loops, and instead face the real questions —
“How did I get here?”
“What’s still driving me?”
“What kind of man do I want to become?”
— then you’re ready for this work.
This is what we build
- Direction. A crystal-clear vision of who you’re becoming — and the structure to start living it.
- Depth. We’ll go slow. We’ll go deep. We’ll unearth what you buried to survive.
- Resistance. We’ll meet it head-on — every block, every loop, every old identity that no longer fits.
- Legacy. You’ll grow in wisdom. And wisdom is the most sacred thing a man can pass to his children.
By the end of these six months, you won’t be asking what now? — you’ll already be building it.
This program might be a good fit if…
- You’re tired of faking peace — and ready to fight for real clarity
- You want to break the cycle so your kids don’t inherit it
- You feel called to something deeper than “getting over it”
- You’re not looking for comfort. You’re looking for change.
This program might not be a good fit if…
- You want quick results with no discomfort
- You can’t commit 60–90 min biweekly + fieldwork between sessions
- You want someone to do the work for you
- You still believe the story that it was “all her fault”
Before You Rebuild — You Burn
This is sacred carpentry. Not therapy. Not venting. Not a support group.
You’re here to build. But first, you stand in the fire. You look at what burned and you learn to bless the ashes.
If it’s a fit, we begin. If not, you’ll leave with clarity either way.
Where You Are On The Map
You’ve already walked through the early fires.
You’ve seen your patterns. Taken some ownership. Maybe even tried to rebuild.
But something still doesn’t feel true.
You’re still haunted by old loops. Still reacting. Still unsure if you’re living from your heart, or just avoiding the next collapse.
This is where Ashes to Authority begins.
It’s not just for the man who’s reached the Forge.
It’s for the man who’s ready to stand in The Garden, reconnect with what’s sacred, and build a life that’s actually his.
Ready to dig deep?
If something inside you stirred — even if it scared you — that’s good.
That’s the part of you that’s still alive.
That’s your soul calling.
Here’s how we begin:
STEP 1
Fill out the short form below
STEP 2
Book an exploration call
STEP 3
Transform
If it’s a fit, we begin. If not, you’ll leave with clarity either way.
Testimonials
Wow, what a call I just had with Jeff
Jeff helped me identify that my next move on the money chessboard is neither High nor Low. It’s a Move that will get me closer to Victory.
Huge mindshift for me in becoming more at peace with myself. He has helped to open my eyes in recognising that I should not get too high with the highs in life and to recognize the lows as pure uppertunities to get back up and build momentum to my goals.
I’ve made a lot of extreme moves in life but now I will be more consistent persistent.
Jeff helped me start feeling like my old self again. I realized that there’s nothing wrong with me, and that I can become the best version of myself, as long as I keep putting in the effort necessary to make that happen. Who we truly are always remains within us, we just lose sight of our Selves sometimes. Looking deep within myself revealed the path back to health.
I’m grateful to Jeff for his time and commitment to me, and I highly recommend that you speak with him. You won’t be disappointed.
My reactions to life’s events have also evolved significantly. Things have happened around me recently, instead of an emotional response to the issues. I process it, understand it, able to jump straight to solving issues with a clear mind. Although, emotion still come in waves. I’ve learned to channel them constructively, approaching them with logic and acceptance. It is not a suppression of an emotion, but an understanding and accepting them, acknowledging that life has its ups and downs, and that’s perfectly okay.
I’m now able to see things from a zoomed-out view. I can analyze situations from a broader perspective rather than only from my viewpoint. It helps me to sense different things in advance in the future and deepen understanding of human psychology in general.
Another insight is that understanding that there is a negative and positive for everything. Life itself is neutral. It’s our perceptions that often color it otherwise.
Hi, I’m Jeff Kolez
Leader, Explorer, Wayfinder
I’m Jeff, and I help divorced fathers create a post-divorce life they — and their kids — can be proud of.
Over 10 years ago, I went through a miserable divorce. I lost everything, fought in court, spent a fortune, and had an acrimonious relationship with my ex.
I didn’t want to end up an angry and bitter man who constantly complains about his divorce. If my divorce was going to define me, I wanted that definition to be positive. And so I started a journey of self-improvement — not just for myself — but also for my kids.
Over time I realized it wasn’t me versus my ex, or the courts. Rather it was me versus myself.
Today I live an exciting life, full of love, authenticity, wisdom, and adventure.
Now, I’m here to help fathers build their own amazing post-divorce life.
Read more of my story.
